Relationships

Break Free: A Weekly Journey for People Pleasers

8 lessons · 3 min eachInside the Regulation Room

One week at a time, we'll gently loosen the habit of putting everyone else first. You'll learn where the pattern came from, how to spot it, and how to speak up kindly for yourself.

Start your free weekEvery practice is included in the Regulation Room, $11 a month after a free week.

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This one might be for you if

You say yes before you've even thought about it, then wonder where your own time went.

What's inside

1Week 1: What People Pleasing Really Is

2Week 2: Where the Pattern Began

3Week 3: The Martyr Model, the Faux Dad Paradigm and Lauding Cycles

4Week 4: Getting to Know Your Triggers

5Week 5: Tools for Speaking Up and Staying Steady

6Week 6: Self-Care and Knowing What You Need

7Week 7: Your Self-Care Plan and Handling Pushback

8Week 8: Celebrating How Far You've Come

Your tapping pointsThis practice uses tapping. Keep the Tapping Guide beside you: all nine points on one page, plus the simple steps.↓ Open the Tapping Guide (printable PDF)

Good to knowYours for as long as you’re a memberOne lesson a week, so it has room to settleIncluded with Regulation Room membership

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Settling

10-Day Meditation & Guided Breathing

Ten short days, one a day. Each is a guided video of three to eight minutes, with breathing, visualization and a gentle introduction to the chakras.

10 days · 3–8 min eachIn the Regulation Room

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Tapping

Tapping for the 2am Spiral

The round I use when the same thought keeps circling and sleep has gone, written out point by point so you can follow it in the dark.

4 lessons · 2–4 min eachIn the Regulation Room

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Nervous system

Settling a Braced Body

Gentle, body-based practices for a system that’s staying on watch. For when you lie down and your body still won’t let go.

5 lessons · 3–4 min eachIn the Regulation Room