Relationships

Choosing Yourself with Boundaries

5 lessons · 4–5 min eachInside the Regulation Room

Setting boundaries is caring for yourself, and it is a gift that keeps giving. Together we’ll practice hearing your yes and no, finding kind words, and staying steady when people push back.

Start your free weekEvery practice is included in the Regulation Room, $11 a month after a free week.

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This one might be for you if

You say yes before you’ve even thought about it, and feel the resentment later.

What's inside

1What a Boundary Is (and Isn’t)

2Hearing Your Yes and No

3Finding the Words

4Holding It Kindly When People Push Back

5Choosing Yourself Every Day

Your tapping pointsThis practice uses tapping. Keep the Tapping Guide beside you: all nine points on one page, plus the simple steps.↓ Open the Tapping Guide (printable PDF)

Good to knowYours for as long as you’re a memberGo at your own pace — there’s no schedule to keep up withIncluded with Regulation Room membership

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Ten short days, one a day. Each is a guided video of three to eight minutes, with breathing, visualization and a gentle introduction to the chakras.

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Tapping

Tapping for the 2am Spiral

The round I use when the same thought keeps circling and sleep has gone, written out point by point so you can follow it in the dark.

4 lessons · 2–4 min eachIn the Regulation Room

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Nervous system

Settling a Braced Body

Gentle, body-based practices for a system that’s staying on watch. For when you lie down and your body still won’t let go.

5 lessons · 3–4 min eachIn the Regulation Room